Memories / Fort Wayne Lima Defiance Portrait Wedding Photographers

The weather is cooler, and there are less calls and emails between now and January.  The wind is howling outside from the edge of the hurricane, and it’s just not pretty out there.  I’ve been indoors a lot this past few weeks, so I’ve been cleaning a lot.

I’ve gotten so ambitious, and honestly so curious and bored that I have decided to look inside boxes I have been moving around for years and years.  (There is a digging deep metaphor that applies here that I don’t want to be lost on you!)  My birthday is next week, which brings me to TWO years older than dirt, and it’s time to move the fur and dust inside those boxes aside, and look hard at what’s in them.

I’m a hoarder, I’ll admit it.  I had a talk with a friend many years ago when he asked me why I still had every Daytimer from the time I moved out of my parent’s house.  I opened one up, and showed him why.  “Deb’s birthday party Friday, bring rum and a blanket.”  “Going to David’s wedding?  RSVP by May.”  “I just don’t want to forget”, I told him.  (It still brings big tears to my eyes.)  “If I throw them out, I might forget.”  He gave me the biggest hug.  I kept them for a few years after that conversation, scoured them again, and then I burned them in the back yard in a slightly boozy ceremony all by myself on a night a lot like tonight.

Today I found all the notes my ex-husband and I wrote back and forth. We were too busy to see each other because we were working so hard, and they are so sweet and so dense with info while being just a fleeting message, often with arrows to who-knows-what beside the pad saying things like “enjoy, you deserve it”, etc.  We really loved each other once, before life happened to us and we handled it badly.  I found a letter my brother wrote in a birthday card that made me cry then, and makes me cry today.  (He’s wicked with words, too.)  I found letters from my sister from times when she lived far away and then I did.

Slipped in many of the envelopes today were pictures.  My daughter kept asking “What?!” as I’d sigh too loud, or burst into shrill laughter, or just a single “OH!”.  I was young and pretty once.  Other people told me, but I never believed it.  In fact quite the contrary.  My friends were young and pretty too, and we had fun.  I can prove it!

My words of wisdom for the day are these:  PRINT YOUR PICTURES.  Take the time and the effort once in a while to have something you can hold in your hand, put in your purse or wallet, and send to your friend for their fridge or their desk.  Print them so your kids and grandkids can say “You wore THAT?!”

I told a client the other day “I want to make sure you have at least one thing in your home I’m responsible for creating about which people walk in and say “WOW”!”  With all the talk, much of it mine lately, about digital files vs prints…just make sure some of your life is on hard copy.  It’s way more important than you may think right now.boys

“……………Time it was, and what a time it was, it was
A time of innocence, a time of confidences
Long ago, it must be, I have a photograph
Preserve your memories, they’re all that’s left you……”  Paul Simon

The Regan Clem Family / Antwerp Ohio Family Photographers

I grew up in Fort Wayne Indiana.  My husband Dave and I both went to the schools on the south side, and played in Foster Park.  We bought our first home on Fairfield, a big American Four Square Arts and Crafts Style monster.  I loved that home, and still miss it.  We had intended to raise our daughter Eden there, right where we had ridden our bikes and just blocks from the prettiest park in town, AND her grandparents.  Unfortunately, the longer we were there, the more homeowners moved away, retiring to Florida, etc, and thus leaving their homes as rentals.  Great for the homeowner, not so good for us, the homeowners still there trying to hang onto the value and quality of our beloved neighborhood.

Eleven years ago, after much searching, we moved our little daughter and all our furry kids to a farm-house outside Antwerp, Ohio – just the other side of the state line.  The actual town of Antwerp is five miles away, and is a quiet little town with a k-12 school, and a couple of churches and traffic lights. In the 11 years I have lived in Ohio, I have worked as a photographer there exactly three times.  I don’t know why.  They have their own favorites (probably hometown people), and maybe they don’t know I’m here. I still work a lot in Fort Wayne, our nearest booming metropolis, and in Lima, also a much larger town.

Last year I saw on Facebook that a young local man had been in a terrible accident and the family needed help.  A local church was throwing a fund-raiser and I contacted them and asked how I could help.  I ended up donating a couple of portrait gift certificates to auction off.  It made me feel good to do something for someone in the town where our girl went to school.  Lindsay Lepper Clem called me and asked if we could save her gift certificate for the following fall, and just a few weeks ago she called to set up that appointment.  I was pretty psyched to meet someone from my town, and to work right down the road instead of getting on the highway.  It was cool!

When they met me at the park, and piled our of their van it reminded me of The Sound of Music.  Little beautiful stairsteps of humanity bounced out and walked up to me in very polite way to say hello and introduce themselves.  Regan and Lindsay have the nicest children, and they are so pretty to look  at, but then look at their parents.  We walked and watched for pretty light, and noticed the leaves and the water.  Being with little ones, you tend to see things so differently.  It’s such a gift!  I love these photos.

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Antwerp, call me!  Anyone who lives in Paulding County gets 30% off any regularly priced service!  That’s always true.  I’d love to work close to home, in my own town more often.  Hire a local girl, even if I am new in town. 

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Wedding coordinator for your wedding day?  Wouldn’t it be great?!  No one asks you where the pew bows are, or when the florist should be there.  It WILL be great, because beginning next year, we will take care of all that for you.  Fort Wayne Defiance Ohio wedding planning

We’ve seen the need, we’ve discussed it, and we’ve decided we can provide this better than anyone.  Who knows the timeline of your day better than we do?  Who knows what’s most important and what you really do NOT want better than we do?  It’s a no brainer, and we are psyched about it!  We have hired someone with supreme organization, and an eye for detail to begin caring for our brides all day long.  It’s someone we’ve known for years, and who has a proven track record of caring for people in a way that makes them feel heard and cared for!  You’ll love her as much as we do!fort wayne indiana wedding planning

This is just another way for you to get the care you deserve to enjoy your wedding day, and let us provide you with what you need most!  A day of your own with your lover, pulled off like clockwork because we take the stress and leave you the fun!fort wayne wedding photographersfort wayne defiance ohio wedding coordinators

The VanBuskirk Wedding / Ft Jennings Wedding Photographer

Once in a while someone falls into your life, and enhances it in all
sorts of ways.  Such is the case with Justin and Tracy, and
such is ALSO the case with Tracy and me!  She had seen my work
for another bride and groom in her area, and called and told me “I
like the way you look at things”.  Tracy Burgei walking down the aisleShe’s an art teacher and an
artist and the more she talked the more I wanted to work with / for
her, and help represent her dream.Tracy Burgei and her brothers
When she called, it had just been a matter of weeks since her dad
had been killed and her mom injured in a terrible traffic
accident.  Her sweetheart had asked her to marry him, and as
she told me some of these plans have been in HER head for a long
time. Tracy Burgei VanBuskirk and her mom

I heard about the classic car his dad had that they wanted to
use as their get away car, her brothers walking her down the aisle,
and the photos she wanted taken at the cemetery to include her dad
in their day.  By the end of our conversation, we both felt we
were a good fit, and agreed to move forward.Tracy and Justin VanBuskirk

We didn’t meet until their engagement photos, and that was the
continuation of the comfortable nature of our relationship. 
They drove quite a ways to meet me, and then we drove all over the
place, one following the other, to get the atmosphere just
right.  Lots of time, lots of images, and they completely fine with the driving and the time it took.  It was all OK with them.Tarcy and her dad's tombstone on ehr wedding day  They loved
their photos, and so did I!

The wedding day was just as she had described.  Great fun with

big points of memory and emotion for both of them.  We did get

to use the car.  We did go to the cemetery and get something

that included her dad, and the beautiful spot where he rests. 

Their wedding party was a great bunch of outgoing, big hearted

people who made interesting party images no trouble at all. 

At the end of the day, I took them down an empty hallway together

and shot their ring pictures before we loaded up and left. 

Justin thanked me in such a sincere way for working so hard and

dealing with everyone so well, and getting what he was sure were

great photos.  It meant the world to me, and I told him

so.  If we all hadn’t been soaking wet with sweat, I probably

would have just grabbed him and bawled.  It was a good good time,

and I think it shows in these images, from start to finish.Justin VanBuskirk and the Chevy
Thank you, my new friends!

Karli, and My Visit to Carissa and Marc’s

This is without question one of the joys of my life.  I get to know and love a couple getting married.  Then as their family grows, I get to document that, and become a part of all that life is about.
I drove to Lima Monday night to meet Baby Karli, Marc and Carissa’s newest child.  She is three days old, and fussy and not fussy, and sleepy and not sleepy, not unlike exhausted Carissa, my dear friend, at this point.  Life is LARGE right now.
I knock on the door and a ball of dark haired energy emerges, and becomes this evening’s entertainment.  She’s Indie, the big sister now.  She’s 3, and she is fantastic!  She danced for us, and reminded me of how far I have come with my near teenager, and how much I miss this part of raising children.
Her dance is as follows:
She got out her costume….
Then thought better of it.
She started gently, and a little demure.
Then started to unwind and really show us her inner artiste!
and then for the grande finale…
And then I took pictures of the baby….don’t worry, there’s a whole year of her to come!
AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST….Handsome Jesse!  (You didn’t think I’d forget you?)
Thanks everybody.  I smiled all the way home.