Wildly Romantic Wedding Photographs….or…..not / Ft Wayne Indiana Wedding Portrait Photographers

When you open a bridal magazine, or planning book you see intensely romantic, sometimes even mildly erotic bride and groom portraits. I love this myself. Some of them are like the 21st century version of Harlequin Romance covers.Slattery Wedding Hicksville Ohio photographer

You need to know a couple of things about these shots if this is what you want from your photographer.

FIRST, a competent photographer feels excited and intrigued at the notion that this is what you want. They won’t wince, or draw back; they’ll lean forward and breathe a bit harder.Bride at reception Hicksville wedding photographer

The OTHER FIRST, (because it IS NOT second) is that these shots take time. Not hours, usually (unless we’re driving to an historic location an hour from your reception venue) but time away, without your best man yanking your chain because you’re showing your new wife some love, away from your mother who is to my right saying “HONEY SMILE”, away from the grandma who wants to coo and have her bachelor son with too-much-camera-for-his-skill jump in front of me and say “Let me get one”. If it’s not an ornately staged production shot, but you still want something romantic, and less Ken and Barbie-ish, you still need SOME time budgeted in your day! The Lyday wedding fort wayne indiana photographyIf you want creative/unique work from your photographer, please discuss your timeline with the photographer more than once prior to the week before your wedding. Allow time. This can be worked out.

A great way to do this is to take some time together BEFORE the wedding.

STOP.

DON’T LOOK AWAY NOW.cleveland ohio wedding photographer sage oboyle kirtland hills

Listen!

I personally love this, and consider it more romantic.

Let me tell you why!

I urge the couple to choose a spot to see each other for the first time. I have the groom turn his back and have the bride approach. He gets to see her and review every detail of her, and she HIM. You get to say things to each other, compliment each other, soak each other in. The boutonnière is not crushed by the receiving line before she is alone with him. Her veil, hair and make-up are not wrinkled and wilted by hugs and perspiration. They are the first to see EACH OTHER, and in my experience, the stress bubble starts to deflate, and I see these two people begin to ENJOY their wedding day. They’ve seen their best friend; they begin experiencing the day TOGETHER. The dynamics of that kind of wedding day are immensely different from the scenario where he paces and sweats, she fumbles and tears up constantly, and the tension is what gets documented the first part of the day.Bridal portrait wedding fort wayne indiana photographer

Many times I have heard resistance to this idea, and the notion that “if he sees me before the wedding he won’t feel that rush of seeing me at the other end of the aisle, it won’t be the same, and it won’t be the way it’s supposed to be.” Remember folks, I have shot LOTS of weddings now. I watch these people all day. The notion that he won’t look down the aisle and say to himself, “Here she comes. There she is. The girl I’m about to marry.” Believe me, the groom still wells up, the best man still pats him on the back, the bride still feels all the emotions she would have—she is STILL walking toward Prince Charming on her dad’s arm, she is STILL about to marry the man she loves, and that walk is still a very special one!Fort Wayne Indiana Wedding photographer grand wayne

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So, to recap, creative portraits take time to get. We can do it after the wedding and before the reception while your mom is hissing “HONEY, the guests are waiting” or we can get them done before, and then you two sail out of the church, onto the party bus or limo, have some extra time with your friends on the way, and you get there before the hoers oeuvres are gone. You can always put a delay between your ceremony and reception to get some fun stuff with your wedding party and then your new spouse. We can stop along the route to the reception, I’ll even ride in the limo if you’d like, or if we’re all finished, I race you to the party, get detail shots of your table settings and your place cards, and your cake before there’s a crowd around it, and greet you as the DJ announces to the guests that you’ve arrived.

Either way, if you plan it into your day, we get the shots you hoped for. The ones your girlfriends and sons and daughters will ooh and ahh over for generations. Either way, we get the documentary of your day. This is the only thing you have left after the gifts are put away and the gown is cleaned.Jon and Jill bryson wedding portraits fort wayne photography

Your preparation for what you want is just as important as mine if you want more than the standard fare in your wedding album. Lakeside park wedding party fort wayne indiana photographer

On the other end of the spectrum, if all you want is the standard fare, you DO NOT want one of those photographers that takes you away from your guests for hours before you get to the party. Check with other brides, talk to them, and don’t take their written word on the site for the final word. Was this person a commando who was rude to the guests? Did they have great ideas or look to the wedding party for guidance? Did the contract they signed represent what REALLY happened? Did this bride get her pictures in a timely fashion? Were they what she had hoped for? If there were any problems or questions whatsoever, did the photographer handle them in a CAN-DO way with prompt responses, and solutions to her issues?Adam and Brittany at lighthouse Celina Ohio wedding photographer

I hate to be crude, but it’s true in some odd ways. Hiring a photographer is like buying a car. It can be pretty and shiny in their portfolio and their website, but they may be letting people down left and right, and if you don’t check, you’re stuck with a big clunker for the rest of your life.bride and groom wedding fort wayne indiana photographer

Suzanne Kattau-Kilcoin
All Eyes on You Portraiture and Event Photography
260-385-6329

The PBS Auction and Our Henry Adventure in Wonderland!

Last summer I donated a big gift certificate to the local PBS auction for their annual fundraiser.  It was exiting to see the donation mentioned time and time again during the month of the fundraising event.  I got some emails with questions about what the coverage entailed, etc.  That even heightened the thrill of being involved, as I anticipated meeting the winner and beginning the planning of their big day.

In the end the Martin Henry family won, and their daughter Rebecca contacted me to arrange a meeting so we could get acquainted and talk about her wedding day. Becky was in town from Indy to taste cakes, and look at floral choices, and I met her mom Vicki, her sister Jamie and her at Club Soda for a cocktail (or two) and some delightful chat and love fest.  They were so appreciative of my donation to PBS, I was so appreciative of their support of same.  I made fast friends that night.


Fast forward to the wedding day.  How lucky can I get?  Seriously!  The handsomest men, the most gorgeous girls.  A huge loving family completely immersed in this occasion.  The Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception.  The Scottish Rite.  A trolley for a couple of hours in between and all of downtown Ft Wayne as our backdrop.  This was a fabulous day with clients who wanted cool photos just as much as they wanted a rocking party.  A photographer’s dream!

Thanks Becky and Steve, and your entire entourage.


Thanks Martin and Vicki for being benevolent benefactors to a worthy cause.


Thanks to ALL for being the perfect subjects. 


Thanks to the entire Henry family for their graciousness, that day and every day!
I’ve made LOTS new friends–the ultimate icing on this cake!
 

(A special shout out to Brandon Wittwer, who takes my sh**, shoots like a champ, and helps make me look good!)